My life is so hard because… everything is so offensive! The US National Anthem, the US Flag, the Confederate Flag, American history, those statues, the Ten Commandments, past slavery of blacks, systemic racism, white privilege, police brutality, capitalism, rich people hoarding their wealth, not wearing face-masks to fight COVID, praying in public, praying in schools, bibles, Churches, traditional marriage, sports team mascots, Uncle Ben’s rice and Aunt Jemima’s syrup, twenty years ago you said something, etc.!” (Sigh)
Whether you realize this, or not, everyone of these positions smack of flesh.
The ideologies behind those statements are severely ignorant, dishonest, manipulative, and just flat-out lazy. These beliefs inevitably foster a self-destructive, victim mentality. Also, these beliefs are extremely self-centered and self-serving as they have a way of convincing people that since “life is hard” and “they’re a victim,” this frees them of personal responsibility for overcoming negative situations in their life. I mean, after all, “It’s not my fault. It’s the system. It’s systemic racism. It’s the rich. It’s white privilege. It’s men. It’s women,” and so on. These beliefs are godless.
Newsflash: Life is hard! Life is full of challenges, disappointments and pains. Even Jesus said, “Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world.” (Jn 16:33) Understand clearly that embracing blame instead of taking personal responsibility is godless because 1) It is a form of coveting (Ex 20:17) and 2) It is a form of idolatry (Ex 20:3)
- Covet: to desire wrongfully, inordinately, or without due regard for the rights of others
- Idolatry: any person, pleasure, pain, philosophy, or problem in your life that becomes greater than God
Complaining and blaming is the way of flesh… and it’s idolatry because it depends on self to create a victim, rather than depending on God, Who creates a victor. Blaming, regardless of how bad you’ve had it, never releases you from personal responsibility to overcome through faith in Jesus Christ. Contrast complaining with what the Apostle Paul wrote. “I have learned to be content in whatever circumstances I am. (vs.12) I know how to get along with humble means, and I also know how to live in prosperity; in any and every circumstance I have learned the secret of being filled and going hungry, both of having abundance and suffering need. (vs.13) I can do all things through Him who strengthens me.” (Php 4:11-13)
Some time ago, during my morning devotion, my friend Johnny was showing me a situation where people who were sick, blind, lame, and paralyzed were waiting beside a pool (Jn 5:1-9). Periodically, an angel of the Lord would come and stir the water, and the first person in the pool would be healed. Johnny went on to say that there was one guy who had been waiting thirty-eight years for his turn. Then Jesus shows up. Jesus looked at him straightly and asked, “Do you wish to get well?” This lame man proceeded to give Jesus his sob story. He complained, “No one is here to put me into the pool.” He whined, “Someone always gets there before me.” (Loose translation: “You don’t know what it’s like to live in my skin.”)
I love Jesus’ immediate, simple response. “Rise up and walk.” Jesus totally disregarded this man’s situation and complaints. Jesus bypassed all his baloney and went back to the heart of the matter — individual responsibility! Did Jesus not know that this lame, handicapped man’s situation was “unfair?” Was Jesus being insensitive? Of course not.
This lame man could have “chose” to lay there and continue to finger-point, complain, and yell, “Inequality! Profiling! I’m a victim! It’s the system! The man is holding me down! Reparations! Justice!” Instead, the man chose to ignore all his negative circumstances and chose to focus on the word of the Lord, “Exercise faith and rise up!” Although this man was physically lame, he stepped out on faith and his circumstances immediately changed. He rose up in faith, was suddenly healed, and began to walk. Amazing!
So what’s your excuse for staying in your situation? Victim? Fear? Unfairness? Laziness? Procrastination? You’re alone? Your critics? The system? The man? Money? Too many people have come to rely on their bad circumstances as an excuse for staying where they are. They naively conclude, “As long as I have someone or something to blame, my bad situation is justified, because, after all, I’m a victim.” Again, this is the way of flesh. It’s also the way of modern-day idolatry and coveting. It bears repeating, any person, pleasure, pain, problem, or philosophy that is greater in your life than God, is an idol. This includes your flesh! Seriously though, is there anything in your life greater than God?
“It’s his fault… It’s not my fault… They’re privileged,,, I’m under-privileged… You’re the reason I am the way I am… Blah-blah-blah!” Really?!! You can blame your circumstances all day long, but you won’t get anywhere. You can point fingers at “the man” until you’re blue in the face. You can babble on about “profiling” and “reparations” and time will pass and your situation will remain the same. (Really?!! As if blaming someone releases you from personal responsibility and work, and having to try!) This flesh-based mentality is directly opposed to a faith-based mentality, and it does not alleviate you from personal responsibility. Tell me honestly, how’s that working for you?
Stop your whining! And, start your faith! Especially you Christians! Your God has commanded you to “Rise up and walk!” He’s even given you authority (Lu 10:19) and power (Ac 1:8)! He didn’t ask for your sob story. God is fully aware of your situation and challenges, and He still calls you to rise up in faith, take your place, and trust Him! You cannot control other peoples’ words and actions, but you can control your words and actions. Honor God with your faith! Rise up and walk!